Beginner's guide to practicing BDSM

BDSM (or Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission & Sadomasochism) is a sexual practice, or fetish, that is a little different from the traditional practice of sex and a little more extreme than other sexual fantasies. It usually involves toys and objects of immobilization (bondage), a lot of domination (discipline and domination) and obedience (submission), resulting in sadomasochism.

Sadomasochism, contrary to what the vast majority thinks, is not BDSM. It is a part of BDSM, but it is not BDSM. Sadomasochism is practiced by those who like to inflict or have BDSM practices inflicted on them. In other words, BDSM is the name of the activity and the dominated are sadomasochists, who enjoy or derive pleasure from being dominated.

An extremely important curiosity: BDSM is a consensual practice (never forced, as that would be rape) and does not always need to end in sexual intercourse itself. Many times, its practitioners manage to reach orgasm without even having sexual contact with their partner.

To better understand this phenomenon, we will describe the aspects of BDSM below.

Bondage and discipline

Bondage means restricting physical freedom, whether with handcuffs, ropes or chains. Discipline means restricting free will, using rules and punishments to control the submissive's behavior. When these rules are violated, there is a habit of applying punishments to the dominated/submissive. Punishments can be physical, psychological or both.

Domination and submission

Domination and submission explore the psychological aspect of BDSM. It is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals that involve the submission of one person to another in a purely sexual context – when practiced outside this spectrum, it could be considered a crime. Physical contact is not necessary in these practices, but it generally is and this also falls under the sadomasochistic aspect.

Sadomasochism

The term sadomasochism comes from the combination of two opposing practices, sadism and masochism. Sadism describes sexual pleasure derived from the application of pain, degradation, humiliation and suffering in general to another person. It is practiced by the dominator. Masochism describes sexual pleasure derived from receiving physical pain or psychological humiliation. It is practiced by the submissive.

If you are just starting out in BDSM, don't start with more hardcore practices right away. Firstly, look for a partner who is extremely trustworthy and has minimal experience in practice, to avoid unintentional injuries. Among the practices for beginners is controlling the use of the bathroom, where the dominant decides when the submissive can use the bathroom; playing the driver, where the dominant takes advantage of his submissive to drive him wherever he wants; the dominant infantilizes the submissive, placing him “punished” in a corner of a house or any other place; the dominant excites the submissive to the point that he almost reaches orgasm and in the end prevents him from doing so…

There are several safe practices to start in this activity. Tell us your experiences below in the comments!